Del, Christine and Jodi all have a confession to make – we have a fascination with dominant men. This is especially true in the bedroom. But not everyone has the same perspective when it comes to the idea of who a Dom should be. Here’s our take.
A Dom’s suit must cost at least a cool two grand, and his home must be large enough to accommodate a fully equipped, soundproofed dungeon with a special name like “The Purple Room of Punishment.”
Or he could be a guy who just likes to leave as few details as possible to chance. Compassionate, always. And philosophical enough to appreciate the inherent contradictions in approaching pleasure through pain. Doms can be bossy jerks sometimes, but at their best they are bossy jerks with hearts of gold. They do what they do as a team with the sub, and it’s never just take. It’s always give and take.
A Dom has to be a brooding man, who never smiles. He wears nothing but leather, hates kittens and has super crazy eyes that can turn anyone into a submissive. Yeah, no….
Most of the men I know who take on a dominate role with their partners are some of the sweetest, funniest men outside of the bedroom. They are super caring and protective toward their family and friends, putting their needs ahead of their own. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t want to piss-off a Dom (though that can be fun sometimes in a scene), because they will defend what’s there’s to the extreme.
A Dom has to have a cool name. Be a millionaire boss. Have a domineering attitude. Own a jet. Be larger than life.
Not in my opinion. Doms, like all people, come in many flavors. I believe a Dom doesn’t need to be wealthy to give a sub what she needs. He needs to be a man of character, one who understands submission is a gift and not his right. He needs to accept that his dominance is equal to her submission, just different. He needs to cherish her independence outside of the bedroom, and expect her obedience inside it. My Dom heroes aren’t wealthy, bossy playboys. They’re cops, fathers, firefighters, and even an inn owner. And their relationships grow stronger and healthier in their dominance and in the heroine’s submission.
Come see exactly what we mean by checking out our Doms! The Theory of Attraction is now available in print from Carina Press.