If I walk into a restaurant and the waitress or counter person says “Do you want your usual?” I actually never go back. Seriously, that makes me so angry. If I go to a restaurant everyday and they make my meal as I walk in or they tell me why usual. I NEVER GO BACK. It makes me so mad. Seriously, even if I love their food–I never go back. If someone at the restaurant calls me by my name–I NEVER GO BACK. It makes me so mad. I don’t know. I hate it when people around me think they know me. I have ASSUMPTIONS, MIND READING, FINISHING EACH OTHERS SENTENCES, BEING PREDICTABLE, HAVING SOMEONE THINK THEY KNOW ME!!! I guess it is almost a boundary violation or a too-close-for-comfort when I don’t know their name. I try never to be PREDICTABLE. I guess I worship the mystery, novelty, and surprises of people. I don’t understand people–I like it when I kind of get a rule-of-thumb about accommadating and getting along with people. I enjoy pleasant, polite, interactions with people. I want to work with people and not go against the grade all the time. When you learn rules-of-thumb of getting along with one person you stop riding the bicycle up the hill and get to coast a little. I hate people who call you by name, assume what you want to order, or make up what you want as you walk into a restaurant–I love being unpredictable. I guess when they know your name, assume what you want, and make up your meal and then get angry when that wasn’t on your taste buds for the day–YOU KNOW YOU ARE IN A RUTT!!!

Novelty is something fresh!! Kind of like the second movie when the first movie was a block-buster. There has to be novelty. Something unique, fresh, a surprise!!!

We all want the same things–fun, love, and happiness!!! People who are fun, loving, and happy draw people near!!

I am glad you have what you have with the above relationships!!!

I would run at full speed away from anyone who finishes your sentences. You are definitely too predictable and are in a rutt!!! Think novelty, surprises, fun, and happiness!!!

Never go to a restaurant where they call you by name, say your usual, or start the meal as you walk in!!! You are not a mystery and ARE STARTING TO BE A RUG as in somebody is trying to walk on you!!!

Be spontaneous, unpredictable, surprising, novel, fun, and happy. When you play poker, never show your cards and always keep bluffing!!!

This is a little too crude or impolite. Okay, dating, okay my understanding is the longer the male puts into getting to know you the more likely he is too notice you. As in trying to figure out the puzzle (the female) actually is interesting and draws the male in. Okay, so be a mystery as long as you can. Okay, get to know the other side first. Seriously, put time into drawing the other partner in. The book The Tipping Point–there are people who have big circles of people in their lifes they know so many people not close or intimacy but they have names of all sorts of people with varying levels of knowledge about each person. Some people he knows well others he knows just how they are connected to a friend through how they met a work or hobby situation. Some people have so many people in their lifes–to make them pay attention to you–you have to spend time drawing them in. Do not show them all your cards. You have to allow them to slowly get to know you by being something interesting as in having something they are also interested in and slowly getting them to know you. Marketers spend so much time predicting people’s spending habits based on their interests. Be of interest to this person–be a puzzle that they want to solve. I have known many females who have married the guy that helped them through Math class. Yes, men are much better with Math on average not to stereotype that much. The male and female brains have different skills and also interests from day one as a child to adulthood. Take time to get to know people. Run from anyone who calls you by name when they first meet!!!

I wish you everything that would make you truly happy!!!

Penn

I can’t wait to read it…

My skills at planning WAY too much all in one day are legendary!!! LOL I really don’t mean to do it, but oh well…

Great blog!

Lisa

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